You’ve picked the outfits, convinced your husband this will be fun, and asked your toddler approximately 20 times to please keep their shoes on… now you’re on your way and wondering… “What if we get there and my kids want absolutely nothing to do with the photos?”
As a mom, I understand. Getting everyone fed, dressed, and out the door is an event all by itself. By the time you’ve arrived, you might feel like you’ve already worked a full shift, and someone is already in the backseat asking for a snack even though they’ve already eaten!
So before we even take the first photo, let me take a little pressure off: your family does not have to arrive ready to perform!
What if My Kids Don’t Cooperate?
This is such a common worry, and I promise you aren’t the only parent whose child suddenly develops very strong opinions when a camera comes out.
Kids are tiny people with big feelings, short attention spans, and occasionally an emotional support rock they found in the parking lot that they are now refusing to put down! Some jump right in, some need a little time to watch and figure out what’s happening, and others would prefer to spend the entire session attached to your leg.
I will often spend the first few minutes getting to know you while also observing your kids to understand how to best approach them. We can give them something to do - action shots are great; let them stay close to you - get connection-focused photos; or take a breather when they need one - get a few of you and Dad or even portraits of the other children.
I can’t promise that every child will be thrilled every minute. I have children of my own, and I would never make such a bold statement! But you don’t need to apologize because your child is acting their age.
What Happens During a Family Session?
I don’t expect you to step in front of my camera and magically know what to do. I’ll help you get situated and comfortable in front of the camera while working our way toward those lovely family portraits of everyone together while also making room for movement and interaction too.
That means walking together, snuggling close, whispering silly things to each other, and interactive games to get the kids smiling and laughing, the best photos often come from the moments your kids are engaging with you and not hearing, “Look here and smile.”
A Little Chaos Can Make a Really Good Photo!
A toddler launching themselves into Dad’s arms, siblings dissolving into laughter together, your child squeezing your neck so tight your cheeks are squished together. Those moments don’t always follow the plan, but they can often become favorites!
There is something so special about having a photo that brings back what your child was like at this age. And let me be clear, you don’t have to find a meltdown magical. Sometimes someone needs comfort, a pause, or a minute without any expectations. That’s okay too!
Your Job Is to Be Their Person
Comfort them. Laugh with them. Hold their hand. Play with them. And don't forget to take a deep breath when things feel a little wild and crazy!
You don’t have to spend the whole session directing everyone or apologizing for every wiggle. As a mom, I know how much you want just one good picture with everyone in it.
As a photographer, I know how many beautiful moments are overlooked and missed because you’re busy correcting instead of connecting. So let me take the lead with the children while you stay close, keep your expression warm, and let your kids know that you’re enjoying being with them.
If you’ve been putting off family photos until your kids are a little older or better at sitting still, you’re welcome here now. Bring your family, their unique personalities, and maybe a backup snack.
I’ll take it from there!
